Mia: It became very obvious to me. I was like, of course, the answers are always in the places where people are excluded from practicing the American dream. I feel like continually whenever I'm looking for answers for issues we face or how to be a person in the world, it is in the places where people have not been successful at what America defines success as because that definition of success is so toxic and is fundamentally racist and sexist and classist. The communities where I have seen the most powerful and inclusive and beautiful and caring examples of family and friendship and community are in my own black community, among queer people, among unpartnered parents, among unhoused people. Those were the people who I went to as the experts for this book. They did not disappoint. I feel like I was transformed by talking with them. Because so many of these people were in some way connected to me, a lot of the folks in the book are my friends, our relationships were transformed just by having those conversations.